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Old 11-12-2013, 08:20 AM
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Originally Posted by Dirtclustit View Post
If you meet resistance, the surest way is to not actively pursue other intimate relationships, but pursue close friendships with others, friendships that are not forged with the intent of the relationship eventually becoming sexual.
I would just like to point out that sex is not the defining factor between "romance" and "not romance." Emotional affairs are still just as hurtful when there is no sexual contact involved.

If you deliberately seek out close friendships with the kinds of people you could see yourself having an intimate relationship, you're at risk of having an emotional affair.

Besides, if you're polyamorous and you feel the need to be able to pursue other romantic relationships, then close friendships will be a poor substitute. It's like someone giving you a hamburger when you're craving steak. It might be a really awesome hamburger with all your favourite toppings, but if it's steak you want, then 100% pure angus ground beef just won't cut it.
As I am sure any cat owner will be able to tell you,
someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.
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