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Old 11-12-2013, 04:12 AM
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Gosh, as I was writing that (just rearranging and adding to what you already stated), I was thinking about how to gently tell someone your feelings and then remembered all the times people were brutal with me about wanting to move on or explaining why I couldn't have what I wanted... it hurt, but I survived.

Of course, no one needs to go out of their way to be mean or harsh, but sometimes we have to set aside all the pussyfooting we do in order to avoid hurting people and just come out straight with what we have to say and let the chips fall where they may!
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