That last litle bit about schedules and spontanaiety reminds me of Maca. He was REALLY against schedules. Until HE wanted to date someone and realized he couldnt find TIME. No amount of talking helped. He had to experience it himself.
I am definitely for scheduling at least one date per couple per week. Other times can be spontaneous. But that way no one ends up with zlich just because schedules got hectic.
"Love As Thou Wilt"