Well that's sort of my issue. I do think its unfair of me. But at the same time, it isn't fair to them if I don't know if I can handle it and they do become more invested... I want to be in a spot where I am more secure in our relationship before branching into new ones when we don't even have answers for our own.
But while we have both had experiences of having more than one love at once this is our first relationship where we are poly going in. He's not used to having the freedom to see people he wants and here I am freaking out.
I want to practice acceptance and engage this matter with an open heart but I am not experiencing any sort of compersion here and I simply feel awful about the way I'm handling this.
One of the biggest things in our relationship is communication. We've spoken a bit about this. But I wanted to reach out for other perspectives on handling these kinds of emotions.