There are so many people out there, that do not openly admit to being 'ok' with Poly, it`s rather difficult to know ahead of time, if someone is or isn`t.
On OKC, I have had many contacts who seem to legitamately want to explore the idea. While there are some who don't get it, and really just want a piece of ass, ......I believe not everyone is looking solely, to get laid.
We all got to start somewhere.
Only problem I see, is if someone states that they are definetly monogamous, and not interested in a poly dynamic, yet feel persued anyhow.
....and unfortunately, there are jerks in every crowd.