Originally Posted by Honestheart
I'm not hung up on the terminology persay but...its kinda important for me to understand and part of understanding is a label...
Descriptive terms are not destructive labels. Describing what is done with a discrete term is not a bad thing to do.
so hears the question...when a hurt liek this happens...is it time to close the doors on poly? afteral, if this happened because of a lack of trust and openess whic is the core part of paoly lifestyle... do you end it and go back to monogamy. maybe, if you did this you're just not "cut out" for a poly lifestyle?
The underlying cause of cheating will be present whether one does poly or one does mono. It's not a question of whether or not somebody is cut out for poly, it's a question as to whether that person is capable of doing *any* relationship. The honesty and such are necessary for healthy mono relationships, too.