Ok, that bit comes in when you're discussing with one of the red flag family style people I'm talking about. When you discuss why you're a fan of a hub style, especially in relation to trust, they become very defensive and will often call you naive or something because you don't feel it necessary to supervise your parners relationships in the way that they do. It's a trigger spot for them. Similarly to someone who absolutely forbids any contact with metamours. As soon as someone ponders whether insecurity/low self esteem etc is a factor in their quite extreme repulsion of any sort of interaction with metamours, they get nasty.
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