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Old 03-21-2010, 07:10 PM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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Originally Posted by Honestheart View Post
how do you deal with your partner hiding another lover/partner from you?
That is cheating, as others have said. No ifs, ands, or buts. If somebody is actively hiding another relationship and they've agreed to a poly relationship that relies on openness and honesty, it's cheating.

does anybody know of any support systems out there for situations like this?
Other than someplace like this? No. Perhaps some of the folks in your local poly community are available to provide emotional support, so you could ask around there (if you know any poly folk locally).
When speaking of various forms of ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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