Yeah Mark, I agree with you..I obviously have some serious issues around that whole topic of people just being able to enjoy sex as an activity or with a "moderate" love..I never thought I would when I was married which is funny..it's not judgement based but jealousy based. I have learned what sex means to me and how it relates to displaying love..it is a huge thing to me, one that I could start a new thread on and perhaps I will.
The sex issue is the key thing in my balance of pleasure and pain, which determines my future. That is why I have found a new approach to my relationship, one that makes me extremely happy in the moment and that is exactly where I am staying LOL!..my secret though
On that note I'll stop straying from the topic