My definition of dadt is your partner is in the dark with every aspect of your other relationships.
They do not know or want to know who what why or when.
You know the view you're going to do it just I do not want to know.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.