thoughts on don't-ask-don't-tell
I don't see too many posts from people in a don't-ask-don't-tell poly situation. It's really worked for J and I, so I'm not sure I see a negative side to it, but wasn't sure if others had opinions or experiences to share.
H and I have a similar relationship; he obviously knows of J and E but doesn't care to know details.
Is don't-ask-don't-tell common in poly relationships?