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Old 11-06-2013, 05:37 PM
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Originally Posted by LondonGuy View Post
I feel in my heart I do have the capacity to love more than one person and maintain those relationships healthily, but I want to reassure anyone I date that I will never put other partners needs first at the expense of theirs. So in this instance I wouldn't ever let my feelings for J (or any other girl I might meet) affect the love I have with S or the time I have with her.
Ummm, yeah... that's called "couple privilege" and not a very nice way to treat anyone else you get involved with. Do a search here for the term and read a few threads about it to understand.
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