People assume triad is the only configuration for a polyamorus relationship because that is all that gets exposure in the media. The showtime show has just reinforced that stereotype.
When people find out my true relationship status one of the first things people assume is we must all sleep together. Do everything together and are quite shocked that nothing of the sort happens. They assume my life is full of drama and etc. They seem disappointed when they find out otherwise. I have a rather boring life. I divide my life equally between two homes. I cook, clean, and make household decisions in both.
I don't have a problem with triads. I have a problem with people trying to force anyone into a box to meet their needs at the expense of the other persons needs. Couples looking for their third seem especially guilty.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.