Due to a closed thread... http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=59714
...starting a new one.
We get lots and lots of people here, couples looking for a unicorn, self styled Unicorns looking for couples. Sometimes it's 2 gay men looking for another guy, sometimes it's lesbians looking for another woman, but usually it's a bi woman/straight guy couple looking for a bi woman, or a bi woman looking for a couple consisting of a bi woman and straight guy.
Usually these unicorns and unicorn hunters want 3way sex. They think 3way sex is hot and they do not see its pitfalls. Maybe they've swung before and found 3way sex hot, and now want to add "feelings" to the mix.
So, they often jump into bed in short order. All 3 of them. Maybe the couple even thinks all the sex they have with their shared gf will be with just the 3 of them. Maybe, just maybe, eventually, they will allow one on one sex for their unicorn.
Then when they start threads here, they get piled on with negative comments from other poly here who, single or coupled, date and (usually) have sex one on one. Feelings get hurt.
Then they complain, mods get involved, threads get locked, infractions get handed out behind the scenes.
And the next day, another couple of unicorn hunters join the board and it all repeats. Or a unicorn posts, how her new couple won't do one on one sex, dates, even texts and she's hurt, and can't bond with her partners individually, she ends up feeling like a toy to spice up their relationship. And she is commiserated with, by former unicorns who had been in her shoes, by former unicorn hunters (like myself) who feel guilty for being stupid in the past and, basically, having used a woman as a sex toy in the past for their own benefit.