Not sure what to say?
Hello. I am struggling with how to approach the conversation with my partner about becoming poly. I was married for 16 years to the same man and during that marriage I cheated. I left the marriage 7 years after the incident. Now I have been in a relationship with a very loving man for 5 years. I always wanted to have the discussion with my first husband about polyamory but we were both raised in a very monogamist family, my parents have been married 45 years. I do not want to loose this man that I truly love but I think we should have this talk. He had a open relationship in the past but when the conversation comes up during a casual conversation with friends about having a polyamorous relationship he just laughs and says "no, no, no".
I'm not sure how to approach this in a honest, "this is what I really want to talk about" way with him.
Does anyone that has been through this have any suggestions on a way to make this go well or atleast better than I'm imagining?