I think its sad you get flack. I get flack on here and in real life because we are a very integrated family dynamic.
But I have close personal friends who are like you describe as well and I've never understood why anyone gives a damn unless it's THEIR relationship that they feel isn't going the way they want it.
I wish both sides of the coin would realize-that both ways can work in the right situation (a situation where the people in it like it).
"Love As Thou Wilt"