Not what we meant...
Dagferi, that's not what we meant by any means. We, meaning neither my husband or I would treat someone like a toy. That's not what we meant at all. Just being new to the idea as we can't say we are new to "being" polyamorous as we've not yet been in a multi-dimensional relationship we weren't sure of the do's and don'ts as there's really some odd material out there when you Google it.
Currently we hope to meet another female who can be our friend and possibly more if it happens "organically". Nothing forced or fake or just a fling. That's what our "idea" is. Whether that happens or not is another story.
Thanks for the advice on reading material...