It's two pages ago, so scrolling and quoting is too haaaaaaaaaard, BUT...
Kevin, I think you posed an interesting question as to why people hide pieces of themselves from others.
I am an extrovert. I enjoy being around people, period. However, with that comes the knowledge that some of these people, while fun to talk with about <x> or <y>, don't really need to know certain pieces of myself. It's sort of a gatekeeping mechanism, where the people closest to me get "those parts" and those who aren't, well... don't.
Not that people don't move in and out of that "zone" (is there a friendzone and a closefriendzone?
), but that's kind of the way I think about it. I just don't talk "deep" with some people, and really wouldn't want to. It's not about self-preservation, or fear, or shame. It's just more about the type of friendship, I suppose.
Not sure if that makes any sense to anyone but me, but I'm on a bit of a leftover candy rush, so there ya go.
Mono. Divorced, two kids (DanceGirl, 14; and PokéGirl, 11), two cats, one house, many projects.
My partner. Poly. In relationships with me, Xena, and Noa.
Poly. In relationships with Chops and Noa, and dating others.
Married, Poly. In relationships with Chops and Xena (individually).
Blog thread: A Mono's Journey Into Poly-Land (or, "Aw hell, there's no road map?!")
Slightly more polished blog with a mono/poly focus: From Baltic to Boardwalk