Davidlnoble.com on Unicorn hunters and the Unicorn. I learnt a lot about what not to do. It might be better to look for a Z relationship than a triad, since it seems to me that whenever anyone comes in to a well established relationship from the outside it is a position of disadvantage, so to speak, as expectations and the motivation for seeking the unicorn are likely to be to fulfill the needs that neither partner can meet for the other in the dyad. Again - I learnt a shit ton of important considerations that helped me clarify my position. Good Luck , hugs and lots of love!