I do not hide anything but do not advertise either.
Murf attends important events for my children with Butch and I. The kids just introduce Murf by his name people assume what they assume.
If people ask I tell the truth. The only people we will probably never come out to would be Murf's family. Because they are very conservative Irish catholic family. They have a hard enough time with premarital sex.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.