You don't even want to be in a relationship with this chick and they're both saying "give it time?" That's bullshit. If I were you, I'd put my foot down - you can't be forced to live like that. You weren't even consulted, that is the height of disrespect. It's your home, too. Find her a couch to sleep on at one of your friends' place or something, but don't let them push you around. How demanding! Jeez, the crap that people are expected to put up with just gets to me sometimes.
The world opens up... when you do.
Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me. ~Bryan Ferry
"Love is that condition in which another person's happiness is essential to your own." ~Robert Heinlein