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Old 10-30-2013, 01:33 AM
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Love ain't enough!

Feeling love for someone is not enough to make a relationship work. There has to be a few other things that bring satisfaction in a relationship. When I am seeing someone I ask myself:

Is this a lot of drama and work, or is it fun and joyful?
Do I feel respected?
Do I feel valued?
Do I feel heard?

If it's more tough work than joy, and if any of the last three questions are answered with "no," I say it's time to walk and not look back.
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
solopoly.net/2014/10/31/why-im-not-a-secondary-partner-the-short-version/
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