It has been a while since my last post and things where going great. My wife and I live together and gf lived out of town. gf would visit every so often and stay for a week or so. This was working out ok. Gf lived with her parents and on the last visit she got into an argument with them and the next hing I know my wife and gf went and packed all of gf's things and she now lived with us.
I was not asked about her moving in and am not ready for this. I decided to give it a try and see how things go. It has been two weeks and it is not going well for me. I feel like My relationship with my wife is suffering a lot. She is less affectionate with me and just seems distant. Every situation is about what gf wants and nothing else seems to matter. The relationship with myelf and gf has never really been more than just friends. My wife kept pushing it to be more and now gf said that she was in love with me and I don't feel the same. I feel like that gf is just "pretending" to be in love with me to please my wife.
I have tried talking about this, all three of us, and wife one on one. Gf just gets mad and wife starts crying and all I really get is just give it more time. I am to the point that I don't want to give this more time. I don't want to lose the relationship with my wife and I enjoy the friendship with gf. But something needs to change.
I also asked if gf/wife if gf was going to look for a job and she said she would. She has not attempted to even try to look. I had talk with my wife about our finances and how we would not support gf for long with out putting less money into savings and she assured me that she would look for a job.
I feel like I am just a roommate and that we can not support gf much longer with out sacrificing our financial future. I really don't know what to do.