Originally Posted by ColorsWolf
LYING TO THE CHILDREN OR TO ANYONE is just being deceitful and makes it seem like you are "ashamed" of your relationships, at least that's the way it seems to me.~
Besides, children are much more clever than you may think and they WILL figure it out eventually, but like I said that DOESN'T MEAN they're going to automatically "consider you their new "mother"", they're more likely going to see you as they have always seen you.~
Of course they'll figure it out
Probably quicker than adults. But there's "deceiving" and there's "oversharing." Did your parents tell you about their sex lives?
I would prefer to just let the children know, by actions, what they can and can't count on me for...and leave it at that.
But as for names? Just my own name. No silliness of nicknames or "aunt."