Originally Posted by MostlyMarried
I don't think that's entirely fair. I just wanted to make sure there were no misunderstandings about what I was suggesting. For someone who's never been exposed to polyamory, I could see a knee-jerk reaction.
It's not like I was texting ten times a day like, "WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME!?" I have some dignity.
I think that is fair, except the way you describe it in the OP feels very oppressive and needy (which is exactly what you said he dislikes).
We women often interpret male reactions in the same way we would react in that situation but men are much less subtle...if he was pulling away from you he was just not that interested. Truly. If he was into you, married or not, he would have replied, even if it was to say "You are married, I can't go there".
It's more likely that you were beginning to tick him off. I am sorry but that is how it reads by the OP.
Might be a good idea in the future to add the fact that you and your husband are in an open marriage earlier on in a friendship with a man.