Just off the top of my head, my first thought is that all the texts, emails, etc, etc don't really scream independent female. It seems a little "come on too strong" all the while you're explaining to him that he would have the freedom to be him. Actions speak louder than words most of the time. Maybe he is feeling smothered or that you came on to strong.
No one really knows what the issue is but him.
When someone doesn't want to communicate with another there isn't much the one can do but to quietly go away. Or continue to drive him farther away.