I can't vote because I'm nobody's secondary and I don't have a secondary partner either. I have two partners, one of them doesn't have other partners and the other has one other partner. All of my important people (and actually less important people as well) know about both of them. And both of my partners have told about me to all of their important people and most of their less important people as well. There's only a few exceptions when we have to hide being poly.
Me: bi female in my 30's
Living with Hank (partner) and Will (friend)
Metamour: Dahlia (Hank's partner)
Recent ex: rory (also dating Dahlia)