I didn't vote. Neither of my partners have any other partners.
But I wanted to notate-that neither of them is secondary either. One is my husband. One is my boyfriend. Both know everyone in my life and everyone meaningful in each others lives. We all live together and I don't do secrets. I could never disrespect anyone I love by treating them as "less than" a meaningful person in my life.
I don't even keep friends secret, I can't imagine doing that to a lover.
"Love As Thou Wilt"