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Old 10-25-2013, 04:15 PM
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No I am not a fan of the primary /secondary relationship model. I am not a fan of putting the wants of one individual over another. The only way that model seems to work is if the other partner also has a person they see as primary.

How open are you and your wife going to be about her boyfriend.

Can they go out in public and show pdas?

If family is in town is he going to be put on the back burner?

How are the holidays going to be handled?

Vacations?

How about your children, is he going to be around them and included in their lives?

What does you wife want out of this and where would she like it to go?

How about him?

Now how will you handle things if they want to take things to another level? Are you going to be ok with not being number one but sharing that place in her life?
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