He cannot believe that I gave it all up of my own accord. I cannot say I did it for him because he would interpret that I like I did it solely because of him, so I have to be careful about how I phrase this. I believe some guilt might be at work.
I believe he feels bad about needing monogamy, and no matter what I say, he will always be inclined to believe that any decision I made regarding what to give up, was made due to his [perceived] "selfish" need. Some part of him probably feels like he cornered me in to abandoning something that made me "happy." That is not the case.
I have no idea how to make him believe anything differently.
Ry - Me. Panromantic demisexual with a history of polyamorist tendencies. Married to...
Matt (Hubby) - The once distant stranger that I complement beautifully. DH of 13 years and father of our (3.5) children.