Originally Posted by SchrodingersCat
"Unicorn" doesn't simply mean someone who dates couples. It means someone who doesn't have their own personhood and exists only to fill a role in a relationship -- not as a human being with thoughts and feelings, but as a placeholder.
If you were a real unicorn, you would enjoy being tossed around and having your emotions played with and the on-again-off-again. You would never have grown closer to one of the couple, because unicorns always love both people equally. You would wait at their beck and call whenever they have couple-issues to work out, and then you would rush back when they show the slightest interest in allowing you. And you certainly wouldn't have alone time with either of the partners, because unicorns only have sex and intimacy in threesomes.
That's why it's called "unicorn" and not some other, non-imaginary creature.
Cut them loose. They're not ready for this. They practice avoidance rather than confronting their problems. A break from a relationship can be useful to see if you really want to be together, not as a constant coping mechanism to avoid dealing with problems when they get to be overwhelming.
Okay.. um thanks for your view on Unicorns.. your the first to correct my use of the term.. and the "poly" list of terms and abbreviations.. However all the same.. that Unicorn you described.. I agree..isn't me.
And you many be right.. they admitted not being ready before the split..and now they have begged for forgiveness and apologized tremendously. And asked respectfully for my attention and time.
In short, the weren't ready then.. but are they now?
I;m not sure.. and my gutt screams at me.. But I'm gonna stick it out and see where it all goes with him and her.
My apologies if my " misuse" of the sacred Unicorn term, offends you. Again you are the first and only to correct me.
I believe in Poly we all have our own interpretations of terms, and what the lifestyle is and means and how it fits us as individuals... thank you.. sweet person for sharing your ideas.