Originally Posted by Ceoli
I think it has nothing to do with monogamy. I've known plenty of poly people who have been less than honest or disclosed after the fact. And I've known plenty of monogamous people who are direct and up front about everything that comes up.
In fact, I've noticed that there is a bigger difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships than there is between monogamous and polyamorous relationships. One style is not more inherently honest than the other.
Similar to my experience too -- an unhealthy and self-identifying as "poly" couple disclosing after the fact. Conflict avoidance + possessive and controlling dynamic. Quite lame. Some people shouldn't have romantic/sexual relationships until they've figured out how to have friendships. Of course, they're the last people to realize that.