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Old 10-19-2013, 01:44 AM
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Originally Posted by Darkling View Post
In the meantime, my husband has met someone that he wants to date . . . But my husband feels guilty about the whole thing since my crush didn't work out.
Well, tell your hubs that it's not a race! There is no rule in poly that says each person in a committed partnership must have the same exact number of relationships at the same time. Does he count how many friends you have and then make sure to either pursue someone to gain a new friend, or dump an old friend, just so you are both "even?" Of course not. You are two individuals, life has ebbs and flows, enjoy it. Attraction, romance, and love happens in its own time and place...
The world opens up... when you do.

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