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You mentioned fearing that you might lose your girlfriend. Can you articulate what is causing this fear? Are you experiencing some "minor monogamous inclinations?"
So, this other woman is the one who lives in the Southeast? and, your girlfriend has a husband? I'm just briefly reviewing the thread so far and making sure I've got my scorecard right.
From what I understand so far, you have the sweet prospect of two relationships with two very different and beautiful women. Even if there are some obstacles between you and that prospect, it's a great thing to savor the abundance of love in the here and now.