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Old 10-16-2013, 06:09 PM
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The first thought that comes to my mind is that this is going to be awkward and really like walking into unknown territory for all three of you, so don't try and pretend to be all smooth and cool, and like it's easy and no big deal, business as usual. You don't have to have all the answers yet. When you meet L., I think it's perfectly acceptable (and may even be a good way to break the ice), to say something like: "I've never been in this kind of situation before and I'm not sure what I should be doing or saying, but I hope we can all be friends and figure it out together."

I'll post more as I think of it.
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