New and anxious
My boyfriend has told me from the beginging of our relationship that he felt the need to explore Poly. I was closed to the idea and he dropped it. We became very close and very much in love. However it seems something is missing for him. I approach the subject and he would say he just did not know, he was in a weird emotional place. Turns out he was struggling with feelings for his ex of 5 years and his new found love for me. At fisrt I was horrified and put a wedge between us and he stuck by me but longing to explore what it all meant. He has always been honest with me and true to his word but I was jealous of this image of a woman that had a hold on him. I felt threatend. Finally he took me to meet her and it seemed to be going well but as the night progressed she became jealous of his new found love. She was rude and I asked to leave. He seemed upset at her as well and we left. I was very upset and told him I wanted to know what her jealousy could mean to us. He asked for some space. During his 3 days of space I read The Ethical Slut. I am very open and willing to the idea of a Poly relationship with him. While on this short break he slept with her and discovered it is just sexual and friendship between them and that in no way could they be in a relationship. I am ok with that and want to do this with him, How do we get this started without ruining what we have? Any advise and direction is very appreciated! Thank you!