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Old 03-10-2010, 06:45 PM
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Agreeing to be a triad does not a triad make. It sounds to me like you're trying to slam a square relationship peg into a round emotional hole. Setting out a goal for a particular structure without *really* knowing if it's the right arrangement usually ends in heartbreak.
Yes... exactly! This!

What was the reason you decided that it had to be a triad? What does a triad configuration give you that a V doesn't? Is a "V" not acceptable to one or more of you, and if so, why not?

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It's that same thing about prescriptive relationships. Emotions rarely follow directions.
... and doing so causes resentment and various other forms of very bad friction and tension.
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