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Old 10-14-2013, 05:06 AM
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I don't apply a primary/secondary hierarchy to my love relationships, and I fly solo, so I don't really have "partners." But I generally tell my lovers about other lovers if it feels appropriate to do so, and that probably would be after I've had sex with someone a couple of times and it seems that a relationship is starting to become established. I don't feel it's necessary to report back to anyone about every flirtation, interaction, or date I go on unless a conversation naturally happens where it seems appropriate to mention.
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
solopoly.net/2014/10/31/why-im-not-a-secondary-partner-the-short-version/

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