Welcome to the forum! I hope you find what you are looking for here.
Based on discussions I have had with poly people your journey into poly isn't that unusual - many come at it through your route. I hope you find it fulfilling.
As for other communities, I feel your pain - there are some that appear active but are impossible to get into - best bet I have found is to find the ones that appear open and friendly and enjoy those.
Please check out The Birdcage - an open, friendly Polyamory forum for all parts of New York State
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