Originally Posted by mianej
Sometimes I'm scared that maybe polyamory just can't work, that there's always someone who suddenly comes out as mono and everything breaks down.
It's not about "polyamory" working or not working (it obviously does for thousands) it's about individual humans.
As you get better at reading people you develop the skills to see potential trouble on the horizon and adjust expectations accordingly.
You say you're 0 for 2 so far so I bet you are twice as wise now
In my experience, despite all the "potential" I have seen in situations, you have to remember that things will unfold according to their own plan - which may NOT be ours - or what we saw as potential. A certain number of planted seeds will never blossom even in good soil. Too many factors outside our control or vision.
You'll be fine.