Originally Posted by GroundedSpirit
3> There are people who WERE abused but never realized it - no impact until someone put a light on it.
They didn't realize the impact, or they didn't recognize the abuse? Even if they didn't recognize the abuse, there was most certainly some kind of impact.. when someone puts a light on it, you say "oh, gawd, is THAT why I feel that way/do that/ avoid that" etc..
But it's there, realized or not.
Fifteen years of not recognizing the abuse for what it was later, I understand what it did to me now.