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Old 10-11-2013, 09:47 PM
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Originally Posted by Natja View Post
it really depends on the intimacy of their relationship and no one is in a better place to know that than the OP.
This is a valuable addition to the conversation, Natja.

There is also a difference between relaying a concern and trying to convince someone of a point of view. In my world, I would just say it and not interject myself personally. There is a big difference in my reporting the details of what I have been told and making a persuasive argument that "that girl is trash and you need to dump her".

All of this is, of course, assuming I actually know this friend intimately and have some reasonable expectation that they aren't going to freak out and excommunicate me from their life.

Originally Posted by westVan View Post
Before doing anything I would advise you to check your motives.
Very astute. /not sarcasm
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