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Old 10-11-2013, 09:47 PM
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Originally Posted by Natja View Post
it really depends on the intimacy of their relationship and no one is in a better place to know that than the OP.
This is a valuable addition to the conversation, Natja.

There is also a difference between relaying a concern and trying to convince someone of a point of view. In my world, I would just say it and not interject myself personally. There is a big difference in my reporting the details of what I have been told and making a persuasive argument that "that girl is trash and you need to dump her".

All of this is, of course, assuming I actually know this friend intimately and have some reasonable expectation that they aren't going to freak out and excommunicate me from their life.

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Before doing anything I would advise you to check your motives.
Very astute. /not sarcasm
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