You asked advice on a PUBLIC forum.
If you cannot handle advice which you do not want to hear don't air your dirty laundry.
I could have phrased it as stop being a meddling gossip and mind your own business.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.