Originally Posted by GroundedSpirit
Well, the only secret I know to avoid/minimize hurt is honesty!
Hi GS, I tend to reflect a bit when I don't have an answer to something. At the poly meet last week, in our group there was a guy who kept coming back to honesty. And I kept snagging on what he was saying.
I don't think honesty is the only secret. If I'm completely honest and say something like, "I'm not in love with you anymore" or whatever the case may be, that person is going to feel hurt. Now, yes, it's not my job to control their process and emotions, but they're still going to be hurt.
I don't know that there is a way to avoid hurt. Living and loving hurt.