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Old 10-08-2013, 05:19 AM
UrbanDiplomat UrbanDiplomat is offline
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Posts: 8
Smile New, and Figuring Things Out

Hello all,

I joined this forum because I've entertained the idea of being in a long-term relationship with two women, and want to develop a more concrete understanding of polyamory before blindly moving forward.

I'm no stranger to this lifestyle. However, early on, I had a pretty bad experience. It was no one's fault but my own though. I didn't understand the importance of setting ground rules, didn't explore the culture enough, moved entirely too fast, and quickly realized my consequences. Today, I'm in a different space. I know what I'm comfortable with, have a clearer picture of what I want, and can stay true to myself as I interact with others.

A positive experience I had with two women is fueling my desire for a long-term relationship in that setting. My ex and I would meet with a friend of mine from time to time. I'd known them both for a few years, and they were pretty comfortable with each other. It was casual, but I loved the opportunity to express affection for more than one person at a time. It broke up the monotony of a 1-on-1 relationship. But, I'm not naive; I realize that 3 different, intimately connected personalities will be no walk in the park.

I'm open to (respectful) thoughts and opinions on all this. Hopefully I'll hear from someone that's had more experience in similar relationships. Thanks
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