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Old 10-08-2013, 04:22 AM
Arisu Arisu is offline
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Originally Posted by bookbug View Post
May I inquire as to your gender? The reason I ask is because if you are male, it could be that your gf's don't quite understand your insecurities as they probably don't see how that either one of them can replace what you bring to the relationship....

A lot of times stating specific needs (behaviors) as opposed to non-specific needs is helpful. They probably have very little idea how to help you work through your concerns,...

So what specific things could your gf's do to help you?

And while it know it is tough, they will probably be a lot more able to be compassionate if they don't feel like they have to fight for some time alone. Maybe if you could find a way to give them your blessing (even if it means setting a schedule), they won't feel so frustrated.
Sorry! I am female. I have tried giving them some specific needs and been shot down, which has been very frustrating. it's strange feeling like the odd one out after four years, but I'm sure I will find a way to figure it all out on my own...
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