The thing I see as the problem with this is I have seen it ruin 2 long term marriages. She has only been involved with one woman in her life and that was someone she was friends with before the sex began. That relationship only lasted 2 years and it was done. I was friends with the same woman but knew nothing of their sexual relationship. I thought they were just friends. This other woman encouraged me to date my wife by telling me how good of a person she was. I would still consider her a friend.
I am wanting someone that can be there for both of us. I don't want this to be a one sided thing. There is enough love In this house to go around. We have our problems but we use them to make us stronger. This is a problem that can make us better people and make us love better.