I just had to reply to this! I'm also a Boston-ish member so it was nice to see someone local.
I live on the south shore. you guys sound great and it's fabulous that you know exactly what you want. I'm a bi-female, also married, and have a toddler. I'm very new to poly- my husband and I have just started exploring it. anyways, hi to you both! maybe we could chat sometime. have a great weekend.