Thanks yes this helps a lot! The sexual part is the part where my husband has the most needs to hear about and that makes him very insecure. At the start of this i let him lead the way, because i thought it was 'Giving him time' or 'letting him make rules so it would be succesful for the both of us'. I always asked him why he wanted to know and if the answer would realy help him.
Unlike your husband, my husband is starting to feel less. And unlike you i sometimes give him details about sex. So maybe i should just stop that.