in over my head
I'm almost fifty and thought I would never even have another relationship. She is married, only thirtyeight, and they were always swingers but never polyamorous. We started seeing each other and after two weeks she told her husband. She didn't tell me she was going to although I knew it was inevitable. They worked out a deal where she could see me as long as she didn't spend the night and that we didn't go out of town. He also wants to meet me at some unspecified point in the future. I don't have much experience with this type of relationship. I feel very easy with her and really care about her. She admires me and has made it pretty clear how important I am to her. Now it's two weeks later... There's a lot more I would say but I don't know where to begin. So is this polyamory or what?